Posted by Snowman on March 29, 2001 at 17:07:52:
In Reply to: Re: Telling her vs. letting her know posted by Snowman on March 29, 2001 at 16:53:55:
: Sorry MBM, I just can't agree. The reaction described in the rza post is "par for the course" if the subject of fetishes is not broached in a very careful manner. : I don't like to label people, and I don't think we should be perscuted for having different tastes. That said, I think it is important to be realistic. Fetishes are far from being accepted by the average person, and a very bad reaction from a woman should not be unexpected, particularly if it is not handled well by the man. : I don't think you can use the "blurt it out method" and then fault the woman for not jumping on the band wagon. I don't have any insight into a relationship from reading a couple of postings, but I do know this: In any relationship the responsibilty is no less than 50/50. In my experience this can be a very difficult hurdle for a woman. And what about the flip side of the coin. What if a man really loves a woman, but she just doesn't quite accept this aspect of him? I do agree that there could be more focus on relationships. When I was younger, I wish there had been a board like this to sound out ideas. Like many people I thought I was one of a very few people with these issues to work through. Snowman : : This is ridiculous (not your post Snowman). How sad then. This is no "real" relationship is it - in the final analysis? If you have to "tip-toe" around issues like this, afraid of what your wife/girlfriend might think, then what have you really got? A relationship? I think not.
: : I'm frankly surprised at some of the posters comments by not delving into the deeper issues of such a "relationship".