Posted by Snowman on March 29, 2001 at 16:53:55:
In Reply to: Re: Telling her vs. letting her know posted by MBM on March 28, 2001 at 10:02:20:
Sorry MBM, I just can't agree. The reaction described in the rza post is par for the course if the subject of fetishes is not broached in a very careful manner. I don't like to label people, and I don't think we should be perscuted for having different tastes. That said, I think it is important to be realistic. Fetishes are far from being accepted by the average person, and a very bad reaction from a woman should not be unexpected, particularly if it is not handled well by the man. I don't think you can use the "blurt it out method" and then fault the woman for not jumping on the band wagon. : This is ridiculous (not your post Snowman). How sad then. This is no "real" relationship is it - in the final analysis? If you have to "tip-toe" around issues like this, afraid of what your wife/girlfriend might think, then what have you really got? A relationship? I think not. In any relationship, the responsibilty is no less than 50/50.
: I'm frankly surprised at some of the posters comments by not delving into the deeper issues of such a "relationship".